This morning on my drive to drop off my toddler at daycare, I stopped at Tim Horton’s to grab a coffee and had a small chat with the gentleman who took my order. He was great and gave me a good laugh to start my day. After ordering some Timbits for my son he made a comment and after I said they were for the little guy, he replied “no judgement” and when I ordered MY sugar cookie, he laughed and said “Hey, you’re a mom! You deserve a lot more than just a sugar cookie.” This got me thinking… I am a mom, but why does society think we deserve more?
Do we really “deserve more?” HELL YEAH WE DO…
7 ways my life has changed since becoming a mom.
- I have to announce when I am having a shower, and more often than not have to add “Is that okay?” Once in the shower, I can literally hear the baby crying (even if he isn’t)
- There’s no more going for a drive and blaring MY music. I am usually listening to Head and Shoulders Knees and Toes, or singing “E I E I OHHHHH” to help soothe the crying baby while the toddler yells at me to stop singing.
- It’s too much work to run out for a sweet treat. Its winter time and I’m at home craving my favorite drink – a white hot chocolate from Tim Horton’s. Hop in the car and drive on over! Quick and easy. HA! That would involve first warming up the car (can’t put the kids into a freezing cold car) making sure both kids are not napping, getting them dressed, getting their boots on, loading them both into the car, fighting with a toddler that we’re just going for a quick little drive to the drive through and not a long drive to watch trucks, getting home, unloading the kids, taking off all their stuff and settling back into the house. 10 minutes later realizing OMG the hot chocolate is still in the car. And it’s now cold.
- Getting together with friends has taken a serious hit. Especially during the first year of both the kids lives.
There’s nursing, sleep schedules, exhaustion, last minute cancellations because something went wrong, and everything else in between. It’s just not that easy to “grab a drink” with a friend anymore, at least not now while they are still babies. This has led to some feelings of loneliness, jealousy and the blues. I’m going to touch more on this in a separate post; it’s a heavy one, but very real.
- I’d rather spend my money on my kids. Both my boys have some pretty nice stuff. I have NO problem spending hundreds of dollars on new clothes and toys for them however, for myself, I still have a 25$ pair of Old Navy jeans, sitting in my cart thinking “Ohhh… I don’t know” and wearing jeans that are so baggy I look like a kid from the 90’s.
- So many feelings!!! The constant feelings and emotions I feel include, but are not limited to: Worry, guilt, exhaustion, fear…
- Young kids don’t sleep in. It’s Friday night! SWEET! Let’s go to dinner and a movie, or stay in and have a few drinks, stay up late and sleep in! Sleep in…. I don’t understand, what does that mean?
There are so many more ways life has changed in the past 3 and half years, these are just the 7 off the top of my head. And like everything else in life there is the good, the bad and the ugly. The one thing that never changes is the fact that this is the life I chose, and although there are some bad days, the good days outweigh them and the memories we create as a family are worth more than anything else in this world. It is also comforting to know that one day; I will need my children as much as they need me now. In part two, I will touch more on this, and how else my life has changed for the better since bringing these two little humans into our world.
Most of these things, aren’t in any way serious changes, they are more just ways I have had to adjust…But, take this away with you…a parent’s job is not easy. So, if you see or know a mom, or a dad, especially one with young children, try and see behind the scenes. There is a lot that they have to miss out on. Give your mom friend a call, ask how she is doing. You never know what she has had to deal with in the past 24 hours. Or how much she misses hanging out with you.