New Year’s Eve is just around the corner, and with it brings the popular notion that we should make New Year Resolutions. Not this year.
2020 has been a year for the books, we all know that. I am sure everyone reading this has been affected by the year 2020. For me, I have the added guilt of my toddler not being properly socialized as he has had to stay home. We had just registered him into a public daycare last December to work on socializing and he was starting to open up and come out of his shell after a couple months. It takes my toddler a long time to get used to something new. They closed because of COVID and my little man was stuck at home with just me and the baby. Luckily, this past November we found a wonderful home daycare for him. Those 9 months were so long and every day is so important in a 3 year old’s development.
So when going into the New Year, I am not putting any added restrictions on my life, no promises to “Get into shape, eat better, or get a promotion” etc. However, I am planning on doing things to make me happy again, just like in the year 2019. For example, hanging out with my friends more (sans kids), visiting my family more, maybe take the road trip out to Toronto we’ve been wanting to do for 3 ½ years, taking more bubble baths, getting my nails done, going for more walks with my dog (just me and him) meeting up for a quick coffee date, going shopping just to browse, DATE NIGHT with my husband…We haven’t been on a date since before our 10 month old was born…It’s the small things that make me happy, and it’s about time I started doing some of them, and I think the year 2021 is a perfect start. Not a New Year Resolution….just a wakeup call to start a little self care for this mama, and to stop feeling so much mom guilt!
Every single holiday was different this year. Christmas this year was especially hard. Like many of you, I’m sure, it was the first year in my life that I celebrated without my family. I was able to video chat but it wasn’t the same. There was no traditional trimming of the tree at my parents’, or Santa Claus parade, and there wasn’t even snow, BOOOOOO!!!! We were lucky enough that we were able to spend the day with my mother-in-law, which was a blessing. She hasn’t been able to spend much time with the boys this year, and now with the lockdown happening again, who knows when we will be able to get together again.
I’m not going to list a whole bunch of reasons why the holidays weren’t amazing this year. What I will say is that this year has been a tough one for everyone, but we’re getting there… Thank you to all of the amazing front line workers who have worked extra long hours, thank you to the healthcare workers who are doing their absolute best and are right in the thick of it. Thank you to the grocery store and pharmacy workers who have been there every day helping us to get our essentials. Thank you to all the restaurant workers who still work every day, and deliver our caffeine kick with a smile. To everyone else who has helped keep us going throughout the year, and to the small business owners who have taken such a hard hit, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! To all the grandmas and grandpas out there who would do anything to hug and hold their grandbabies, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it is getting brighter thanks to some amazing people at Pfizer and Moderna. Hang on guys, we are almost there, and will have some epic get-togethers soon.